To love yourself
Very often I read about Littles/Middles desperately wanting a Daddy to love them and I very often get messages from sweet people who tell me about their struggles with self acceptance, so I thought I will try to guide you through the process of love.
Many of you out there, whether you are a little, middle, ABDL, Daddy etc. search for on thing that you think only someone else can give you: Unconditional love. Someone to take care of you. Someone who makes you feel wanted, cherished, needed. Littles are not that different from Daddys and Mommys here. It’s a lovely, awesome symbiosis that both parts gain a lot from, if they are willing to give.
But this is, where you forget: You can be your Daddy. You can be your Little. You can love yourself unconditionally. You can take care of yourself, treat yourself to nice things, make yourself feel needed and wanted. By yourself.
I know, this sounds really dumb and you may say “Well, but getting this from someone else is much better.” right? But this is where you go wrong. Exepct for towards yourself, you ARE ‘someone else’. To me, to all my readers expect you, you are the ‘someone else’ they may want this love from. So why don’t you start giving it to yourself? Be ‘someone else’ for yourself.
Start taking care of you. Treat yourself not to sweet, but to healthy food. Dress up all pretty and take a lot of selfies to celebrate your beauty. Go out and do fun stuff all by yourself and discover things you may not have been able to discover, if another person was with you. Take time for yourself. Write a love letter adressed at you. Take time to love yourself more than anyone else for some hours, days, weeks. Because you know what? You deserve this. You are awesome. And if you think you suck, your life is a mess and you maybe even have these really bad thoughts about not wanting to live anymore, please try it.
Try to treat yourself the way you would treat your Little, Mommy or Daddy. Embrace all your sweet quirks, laugh about the tiny mistakes you make, take pictures of the things you failed at, just to realize a bit later that failing is not bad at all and wondering how you could feel bad about such a small thing. Be the person you want to marry. Be the person you long for. Make yourself your number one and I can promise you, you will feel everything you ever wanted.
Putting yourself first ist not bad. It’s what you should do. Once you learned how to love yourself as deeply and passionately as I wish you would, you will most like find someone else to share this love with. And I also may add this: Loving someone who loves himself is much more fun than loving someone and constantly having to convince them about how great they are. I am sure you knew or still know someone like this. Maybe your partner, your friend, your sibling. Someone you think is a really cool person, but they just don’t want to believe you, when you tell them how lovely they are. Well guess what, so are you.
See yourself the way you see other people. You don’t scan their skin for flaws. You don’t judge their way of living. You don’t stare at them for hours to find things that people may find unattractive. You see them and you either think nothing at all or you have a compiment in mind. Things like “Oh, his hair is really fancy.”, “Wow, she looks awesome in those jeans”, “Aw, what a nice perfume he’s wearing.” “I love the music that is coming out of her earphones”. Those are the things you think when you encounter strangers, friends or family. Not “Her pimple makes her look like a disgusting little prick” or “That hair is nasty, you should have stayed inside.” No no no.
To love yourself should be your number one priority. You are beautiful and amazing and I want to be your friend. Did you hear me? Can you do this for me? Take care of yourself the way you want to take care of for others or beeing taken care of. Please try it. You are worth the effort. Okay?